The cute baby cried in tears, and the reasons for crying were varied. The parents helped him wear the boots he didn’t like the most; because Dad poured the milk he gave him into a different cup than usual; because the mother made the biscuits Two halves.
The behavior of many children is somewhat inexplicable to our adults. However, there is a word that gives an explanation of these phenomena, that is, the sensitive period.
Children have various sensitive periods when they are 0-6 years old. The so-called sensitive period refers to the growth of children from 0-6 years old. Children are driven by inner vitality and repeatedly operate a certain action or within a certain period of time. A period of repeated learning of a certain ability and a particularly strong learning ability.
Below, we will take a look at the main sensitive periods of the child’s growth process. Knowing the sensitive period will make you understand the child’s behavior and make a reasonable guide, not just swearing.
It is worth noting that each child’s developmental status is different, and the sensitive period will vary, but if the family environment is relatively loose, children who have no depression or special experience will usually be in this age group.
- Sensitive period of light perception
Features: The newborn baby is very sensitive to light. At this time, the baby needs to adapt to the light difference between day and night, so open the curtains during the day and turn off the lights at night to let the baby adapt to the natural light changes.
Suggestion: You can give your baby more black and white pictures.
- Sensitive period of taste development – 4-7 months
Features: Your baby’s mouth can feel sweet, salty, sour and other tastes.
Suggestion: At the beginning of adding complementary food, we must pay attention to the lightness of the diet and protect the sensitivity of the baby’s taste.
- Sensitive period of oral cavity – 4-12 months
Features: At this time, the baby likes to eat, he uses the mouth to try, feel, and even some abstract concepts.
Suggestion: Please give the baby a chance to develop the baby’s oral cavity, let the baby eat enough, and do not ruthlessly take the baby’s hand away from his mouth.
- Sensitive period of arms development – 6-12 months
Features: This time the child likes to throw things, then the earliest hand-eye coordination development standards.
Suggestion: Please ask the caregiver not to control the behavior of the baby, let him throw enough, and even help him to return to him to throw it back.
- Sensitive period of muscle development – 1-3 years old
Large muscles 1-2 years old, small muscles 1.5-3 years old
Features: like to help, stand, and work hard.
Suggestion: The two-year-old child has already walked. It is a lively and active period. At this time, he is given plenty of space. Under the premise of ensuring safety, he is familiar with more physical movements and works with him to make many game sports. Various muscles are trained to enhance parent-child relationships and to balance the left and right brains. In the sensitive period of action, the training of fine movements not only helps to develop good habits but also increases intelligence.
- Sensitive period of interest in subtle things – 1.5-4 years old
Features: Busy adults often ignore small things in their surroundings, but children often capture the mysteries of them. He often makes small movements that we don’t understand, such as pinching a falling leaf and constantly inserting it into a flower pot, or playing with a flower handcuff, it doesn’t bother to see it, but we can’t understand it. See more mysteries.
Suggestion: This period is a good time for us to cultivate children to learn about things, and to understand the world with questions and ideas.
- Language sensitive period – 1.5-2.5 years old
Features: The enlightenment of language is always accompanied by infants and even the fetus. Talking to the fetus, the baby’s babbling language begins to be sensitive to language.
Suggestion: Nature gives the child the ability to watch the words of Mom and Dad until they suddenly speak. This process is the power of the language-sensitive period.
Some children talk late, if it is not a disease, then it may be the impact of the environment, whether he will speak or not, we must continue to give him “nutrients”, talk to him more, tell stories, when he needs to express When you feel your own feelings, you naturally speak. Similarly, good language education will enhance the expressive ability of young children and learn to interact with others.
- Sensitive period of self-awareness – 1.5-3 years old
Features: Distinguish between my and your, my and your boundaries. The main performance: from the beginning of saying “my” to the beginning of saying “no” to start beating, biting, and then imitating others, gradually the children have self-awareness, the most common phenomenon of children at this time is to divide me In order to clear you, and by saying “no” to use the feeling of self-will, “I have the final say” is the most important thing, if something does not meet his mind, it will cry, the performance of the children It is completely self-centered and appears at ages 2-3.
Suggestion: When a child hits a person, we only need to stop the child’s behavior. For the child, “beating you” is just an exclusion. Don’t condemn it, don’t preach it, because it is different from rough behavior. We will let the child use his self without violating the rules.
- Order sensitive period – 1-4 years old
Features: Strong pursuit of the order of external things, the position of the items, the sequence of actions, the appearance of the characters, the ownership of the goods, etc. have almost strict requirements, if you are challenged, you will feel uneasy, anxious, and even Will show extreme violent reactions.
At the age of 3 to 4, there will be a critical period of perfection for order (sometimes at the same time), which can be called a perfect sensitive period. Then, the child’s sensitivity to order rises to the requirements of the rules: no matter where you are, I must abide by the rules and everyone must abide by the rules. And gradually changed from obeying rules to internalizing some life routines.
Recommendation: Face the seemingly unreasonable behavior of children during this period, try to understand more about the reasons behind the child’s behavior. If the child has a reasonable or non-principal need, accept the child’s Emotions and try to satisfy their “orderly desires” in the sensitive period of the order, in line with the need for the development of order.
- Sensitive period of social norms – 2.5-4 years old
Features: Start to like to make friends, like to participate in group activities, which shows that the child entered a sensitive period of social norms. The education of the sensitive period of social norms helps children learn to abide by social rules, norms of life, daily etiquette, seize the opportunity to raise, help to comply with social norms in the future, have a self-disciplined life, and easily interact with others.
Recommendation: Contact with more children. Parents of two and a half years old can prepare to enter the park, and kindergartens can provide a good environment for making friends.
- Sensitive period of space – 9 months – 4 years old
Features: like high base, 3D games, drilling boxes, etc.
Suggestion: You can provide more similar toys, and at this time you can learn various geometric figures and lay the foundation for an interest in learning geometry in the future.
- Color sensitive period – 3-4 years old
Features: Start to feel and recognize color, and start to look for different colors in life. The development of human cognition begins with sensory training.
Suggestion: Provide children with colorful pigments and related books to lay the foundation for future painting interest.
- Logic thinking sensitive period – 3-4 years old
Features: Constantly questioning “Why?” “Why is the day dark?” “Why is it raining?” “Why do children go to kindergarten?” and so on. These problems always make parents feel overwhelmed, but the children do not care to break the casserole. When we answer the child once and for all, the child begins to think logically. It is through such a question and answers that the child develops the thinking ability while recognizing the objective world.
Suggestion: Protect your child’s precious curiosity. If parents can’t answer the questions, they can study with them. At this time, it is very important to have an encyclopedia at home, because the speed of cognition is half the effort.
- Hands-on sensitive period of cutting, pasting, painting, etc. – 3-4 years old
Features: Children begin to use tools consciously and consciously, which is the best opportunity for most children to build a character. Whether in the classroom or at home, as long as there is sufficient material, the children are very happy to choose to cut, paste, paint and so on. From the perspective of physical development, this is also an important task for children to train small hand muscles and hand-eye coordination.
Suggestion: What parents need to do is to provide the children with the materials they need and try not to disturb the children who are working attentively.
- Occupy sensitive period – 2-4 years old
Features: Begin to feel strongly about possession and control of the happiness of your own belongings. Only when the child has the complete possession of the material and is free to control, can the child explore the spirit behind the material and then transcend the possession of matter. And when the ownership of these items belongs entirely to the children themselves, the exchange begins. At the same time, it also opened the prelude to interpersonal relationships.
Recommendation: Give your child a separate space, such as a room or area belonging to the child. When you enter his room or area, be sure to get the child’s consent and respect the child’s space.
- Stubborn sensitive period – 2-4 years old
Features: Children between the ages of 3 and 4 enter the sensitive period of obstinacy, and some children enter this sensitive period as early as 3 years old. The performance is that everything depends on his thoughts and intentions, otherwise, the emotion will change dramatically, lose his temper, cry, and make trouble. At this time, parents and teachers should give the child enough patience and care, but also learn some comfort techniques.
The sensitive period of child stubbornness may be due to a sense of order. In the construction of the special quality of order, children’s excessive demand is often considered to be “willful” and “noisy”, but we feel that the concept of “stubborn” is more accurate. Children are often difficult to adapt during this period, sometimes to the point of being unreasonable. We don’t know the real reason for it, but we know for sure that children’s psychological activities must be orderly. When he does not go beyond this order, he will strictly enforce it.
Suggestion: To solve the problem of children’s stubbornness, one must understand, the second is to be flexible, and the third is to succeed.
Understanding is not particularly difficult, but flexibility requires wisdom and skill. Only when the workaround is good can the problem be solved successfully, and then there will be happiness that comes with it.
It should be noted that the child’s requirements for order did not reach the level of obstinacy at first. In the beginning, he would be uneasy and crying. As the self gradually formed, he raised this order to the level of consciousness and began to become obsessive. No compromise.
- The pursuit of the perfect sensitive period – 3.5-4.5 years old
Features: Children need to do things perfectly, it is very painful to spill a drop when they are in the water; there should be no spots on the apples eaten; the white potty in the toilet can’t have any yellow stains; the clothes can’t be fewer buttons and so on. Then rise to the requirements of the rules: I must abide by the rules and you must abide by them, everyone must abide by them; banana peels must be thrown into the trash can, they must be held without the trash can; the red light is on, even on the road The car, a person who does not have to cross the road, has to pass back, who told you to do this!
Recommendation: Still respect the child! At this time, don’t care if the child must eat a whole cake. Can the child’s problems not be magnified, and at what time it is only for what.
- Sensitive period of the curse – 3-5 years old
Features: “Smelly ass”, “smashing”, “killing you”, “kicking you to death”, these sounds are neither civilized nor terrible, always from the mouth of children of this age. Because the child finds that the language is powerful at this time, the most powerful expression of the word is the curse, and the more intense the adult reaction, the more the child likes to say.
Suggestion: Ignore, fade! Don’t care about your child’s language. This is not what he really wants to express. Slowly wait for this stage to pass.
- Inquire about the sensitive period of birth – 4-5 years old
Features: Children often start asking questions about where they are coming from this period and ask again and again. The adult answer can’t be sloppy, because it is the earliest source of child safety and the oldest philosophical question: Where do I come from?
Suggestion: Parents take out the encyclopedia seriously and tell the children the whole process of life formation.
- Interpersonal sensitivity period – 4.5-6 years old
Features: From the one-on-one exchange of toys and food to the search for the same taste partners and began to connect with each other, from playing with many children to only one or two children, the child has experienced the whole process of interpersonal interaction, and this Communication intelligence is innate.
Recommendation: Parents can give guidance on how to get along with each other.
- Sensitive period of marriage – 4-5 years old
Characteristics: After the sensitive period of interpersonal relationship, the child actually started the sensitive period of marriage. At the earliest time, children will want to “marry” with their father and mother. After that, they will “fall in love” with their teachers or other adults. Until the age of 5, they will “fall in love” with a small partner, such as sharing good things with their favorite children and often playing together, and when they are in conflict, they are not willing to let others intervene. In short, they want to have their own space.
Suggestion: No matter how many times a child wants to marry, how many friends he likes, parents must give their children free space.
- Aesthetic sensitive period – 5-7 years old
Characteristics: Aesthetics has its own wishes and aesthetic standards for its own image. In particular, girls have a strong interest in their clothes and costumes.
Recommendation: Children always like makeup when they are in an aesthetic sensitive period. Of course, in the eyes of adults, these “makeups” are very ridiculous, but these girls are always enthusiastic, and always walk around in front of everyone to show until they get your compliments, they will bring The satisfied look left, turned and will be displayed in front of other teachers. In addition to make-up, girls also like beautiful dresses and shoes, and dress and dress according to their own ideas.
- Identity confirmation sensitive period – 4-5 years old
Features: Children will give themselves one identity after another. This phenomenon is because the child begins to worship an idol and hopes that he is the idol. In kindergarten, there are often children wearing Snow White costumes. You must call her Snow White before she promises you. In the process of confirming this identity, we can observe that they begin to express themselves through their idols.
Suggestion: You can play a role-playing game at home. Your child will be very interested in. Maybe you will develop a famous entertainer!
- Gender-sensitive period – 4-5 years old
Features: The most important thing for children at the age of 4 is who is the boy who is the girl. If someone goes to the bathroom, they must follow it because they want to see if they are boys or girls.
Suggestion: The child’s exploration and understanding of the body comes from observing. When an adult explains to the child, the attitude must be objective and scientific, just like knowing your own eyes, nose, and mouth. Of course, the encyclopedia is the best tool at this time.
- Sensitive period of mathematical concept – after 4 years old
Features: When the child reaches 4 years old, he always likes to ask: This is a few, what time is it, how many people? This is because children have a strong interest in numbers, numbers, and numbers. But the children at this time still can’t fully understand the logic. They just can match the numbers, numbers, and quantities.
Suggestion: This is the initial development of the child’s mathematical intelligence, and only the trinity mastery, it is the concept of the number. At this time, the child can help the family to buy some daily necessities, and spend money to exercise digital ability and economic ability.
- Sensitive period of recognition – 5-7 years old
Features: This is the first time a child touches a symbol. Our method is to give the child some text cards, let the children match the movements and the text they see to learn the text.
Suggestion: At this stage, the child can only understand the text in a macroscopic way, that is, a whole image, and can not decompose the strokes of the words, nor can they reach the writing. Children will also be interested in certain words that they are familiar with, such as they will find words in their names appear elsewhere.
- Painting and music sensitive period – 4-7 years old
Features: This is the intelligence of all life. Painting is one of the most used languages for children. They start with graffiti and can express their feelings. The whole process is a natural expression. The child began to develop in the mother’s belly. The child over one year old can twirl his body with the rhythm of the music. Music is the language of human beings, and the child is born with the highest level of artistic appreciation.
Recommendation: In this sensitive period of development, we can help children develop as long as they can provide a high-quality environment for their children.
- Continuing the sensitive period of marriage – 5 years old – 6 years old
Characteristics: This sensitive period after the age of 5 is a continuation of the sensitive period of the previous marriage.
Suggestion: The tendency of children to choose a partner at this time is very obvious, and they know some simple rules of marriage, such as long as the person in love can get married.