0-1 years old is one of the fastest growing stages of babies. At this stage, the baby explores the world through the mouth, at the same time, the oral cavity is also an important body part for the baby to enjoy and meet and communicate with the outside world. At this stage, the baby’s brain develops most rapidly (already more than 50% of the adult brain weight); at this stage, the baby needs to rely entirely on the mother (caregiver) to survive.
Meet the needs of the baby as soon as possible
The fetus came to the world from the womb, one of the major traumas he suffered in his life. Parents provide a safe and comfortable environment for babies due to their continued psychological needs and social “uterus”. Therefore, at this stage, the caregiver (usually the mother) needs to be sensitive to the baby (rather than sensitive to himself) and needs to meet the baby’s needs in a timely and accurate manner. Under such care, the baby can trust the mother and feel that the world he is in is safe, thereby trusting the caregiver (mother), trusting the family, trusting the society, and developing the quality of hope.
Try not to change caregivers
0-1 years old is a crucial period for infants to form an initial sense of trust. The home environment should try to provide children with continuous, constant safety links. Therefore, before the age of 1, it is best not to replace the main caregiver (mother), do not let the baby and mother separate. Because there are large differences in the styles of different caregivers, it is difficult to provide a continuous and safe connection for the baby, making the baby easy to confuse.
Support baby’s mouth to explore the world and know the world
For a 0-1-year-old baby, what she gets will be put in her mouth. Because at this stage, the mouth is an important body part for the baby to satisfy the desire (such as sucking milk) and communicate with the outside world. The baby explores and perceives (perceives) the surrounding world through the mouth, thereby promoting the development of the brain. Therefore, before the age of one, parents should not prevent the baby from biting because of hygiene problems. Parents should provide a safe and hygienic environment for babies, and support babies with their mouths to explore the world.
Meet the needs of your baby’s food
The world of children is very simple, and the food and needs that children need are also very simple. To give your child more security, you need to understand your child’s needs first. Under normal circumstances, children want to satisfy their appetite, and they will cry out through crying. The food that your baby expects is usually breast milk or formula milk powder. When the baby is still young, Mom and Dad’s parenting experience is still very weak, so they will choose the way to feed regularly. This method is easy to ignore the child’s emotional needs and make the child lack safety.
Therefore, mothers need to learn to understand the signals that the child sends. Mom and Dad can feel it when the child is eager to drink milk. When the child’s demand for milk is met, the child gets more security. The child is satisfied in the diet and will be more emotionally stable.
Communicate frequently with your child
Some parents believe that children do not have to learn to talk, they do not have to communicate with their children. In fact, this is the wrong idea. When the child is still not talking, the baby will also require emotional expression. Communication between parents and children is very necessary. Through communication, moms and dads can give children more security. When the mother is feeding the baby, she can talk to the child and look at the baby with a gentle look, at this time, my mother’s good mood will also affect the baby’s mood. Although the baby can’t talk, the child can also feel the love of mom and dad. This kind of communication can give the child more love and the child will feel safe.
When Mom and Dad are holding their baby, the child will have more security. When the child wakes up alone in the bed, he will cry. This is the performance of the child’s lack of security. At this time, the mother picks up the baby, gives the child a kiss, or we pull the baby’s small hand, this kind of physical contact can give the baby more security. Physical contact is a more direct way to give your child a sense of security. Therefore, when the baby grows up, Mom and Dad don’t forget to hold the baby from time to time, let the child feel the sense of security given by Mom and Dad again.
Harmony of a family atmosphere
The child’s sense of security is also related to the family atmosphere. In a family, the harmony of family relationships has a great impact on children. Mom and Dad can love each other and the children can feel the warmth of the whole family. The impact on children is subtle, allowing children to feel the love of a family. In order to give children more security, moms and dads still have to work harder to create a more loving family environment for their children.
At present, many parenting books on the market emphasize the training of infants’ behavior so as not to spoil the children. Some parenting books emphasize that children are fed at regular intervals. When the child is crying, don’t hold the child, and don’t cry when you wait. These parenting methods will make the child more obedient but may give 0-1-year-olds a very unsafe environment. Because when the baby is hungry, urinary, needs to touch and other information, due to the “fostering rules“, the baby can’t get timely and accurate satisfaction. As a result, they gradually fall into despair, suppress emotions, lose trust in their mothers (or primary caregivers), and then lose trust in their families, society, and the world.
0-1-year-old baby will not be spoiled. As a caregiver, parents should be sensitive to the baby, accurately distinguish the needs of the baby, timely and accurately meet the baby, and provide a continuous and constant safety link for the baby.